Woman and Home

Woman and Home are inseparable. Every woman’s life’s desire is to own a home. Her own Home is her kingdom. Her marriage, her husband, her children, her-in-laws, here friends, her career for all these, the Home must be there. The house is a true companion for her. It is the most dearest part of her heart. She can live without husband, without children, without friends, but can not live without house. Many women feel the house is their identity. They feel proud of it. She feels secured. It is her temple. She can built a kingdom of family from hear. For some a house is a four wall place but not for the woman. She loves it, she cares for it. Her sweats for it. She wants to die in it. So, Woman and her Home are not two things. They are one in one. Please write how you feel about your own home. I woman wants to share your feeling about the woman and home.

Sulochana Rani Y.

Mother’s day – inspiring story about mother

A man stopped at a flower shop to order some flowers to be wired to his mother who lived two hundred miles away. As he got out of his car he noticed a young girl sitting on the curb sobbing. He asked her what was wrong and she replied, “I wanted to buy a red rose for my mother. But I only have seventy-five cents, and a rose costs two dollars.”

The man smiled and said, “Come on in with me. I will buy you a rose.” He bought the little girl her rose and ordered his own mother’s flowers. As they were leaving he offered the girl a ride home. She said, “Yes, please! You can take me to my mother.” She directed him to a cemetery, where she placed the rose on a freshly dug grave. The man returned to the flower shop, cancelled the wire order, picked up a bouquet and drove the two hundred miles to his mother’s house.

Dear Mother

In our scriptures, particularly in Thaittireyi Upanishad mother is given the pride of place. The upanishadik preceptor’s advice to the student in his message of Snatakotsava (convocation address) is. “Worship your mother, your father, your teacher and your guest. Mther is of paramount importance.

Gautama Dharma Sutram is ‘Matetyeka, Matetyeka’ “Acharya is ten times greater than Acharya. Mother is thousand times greater than the father. The Quran says “Heaven lies at the feet of the Mother”.

In an American University a professor of psychology did research to find out the cause of greatness in human beings. He took a random sample of three thousand cases of administrators, doctors, lawyers, teachers and business men. His firm conclusion was: wherever there is greatness in a human being, one of the following factors should be present: the training influence of the mother, the example of the father and the influence of the teacher. Of them the mother’s role is the greatest.

The parents may be equally fond of their children and interested in their welfare and progress. However he father is more concerned with the education and conduct of the child by strictly enforcing the standard of discipline. As a result, there will be distance between the father and the children out of the latter are fear, they cling to the mother whose love, tenderness and considerateness touches their heart strings. By her soft approach and coaxing, she gently explains the real meaning of the father’s angry out bursts and frequent reprimands. While defending her husband, she convinces the children that their father scolded them only to correct their mistakes and promote their own interests. Love is more powerful than discipline

It is but natural that the children love their mothers more dearly than their fathers. More over there is self inflicted suffering and sacrifice in mother’s love. We find several instances of a mother foregoing her own meal and providing food to her child. If there is no sufficient food for both of them, she would say “I am not hungry, you eat, “How many mothers went hungry and how frequently out of their self sacrificing love and concern for their ungrateful children who neglected them after their marriage and put them in old age homes! The less we talk about the travails of such mothers the better.

The International Mothers Day is intended to be solemnly observed all over the world at least on this day! This is to remind the ungrateful wretches that they are indebted to their mothers through out their lives and to drill a bit of sense into their impenetrable skulls! Let pay our tributes.

- To the mothers who have remained sleepless through out the night with sick babies in their arms.

- To the mothers who spent agonizing hours soothing their crying babies

- To the mothers who gave birth to deformed and mentally challenged children who received greatest affection from them.

- To the mothers whose children took part in school function and asked “Did you see me mother?”

- To the shopping mothers who try to discipline their children when they run around the place screaming ‘I want a chocolate and that toy”.

- To all the mothers who arrange the books in the bag and tie up the shoe laces of their children, when their husbands sitting the easy chairs and read the newspapers.

- To all the mothers who go hungry so that their children should eat.

- To the mothers who instinctively put their sleeping children, when there is thunder and lightning.

- To all the mothers who often think of their grown up children who are in distant places for studies or on jobs

- Specially to the mothers who are put in old age homes and

- To my own mother (who is no more) who made me what I am to day.

V.MADHUMATHI

M.Sc.(nutrition), C.A.I.I.B.,

Dip. In Diamond Grading, Dip. In Jewellery Designing.

17.05.2006.

DIET DURING PREGNANCY

Having a baby and preparing for motherhood is by no means an easy task. During pregnancy there are several physiological and emotional changes that occur within her body. So it is the time when woman has to make many adjustments in her diet and way of living. She must know that the foetus, i.e. the growing baby depends entirely on her for its food. So right from the early stages of pregnancy, she has to modify her usual diet to provide enough nourishment for herself and the growing foetus .

A well fed woman generally gains 8 – 10 Kg. during the entire nine months period and delivers a baby weighing about 3 Kg. If the diet is nutritionally inadequate the foetus tries to draw its requirement from the mother’s body itself, with result the mother becomes weak and would not be in a position to feed and look after the baby after the delivery.

Generally the food must be simple, nourishing and easy to digest. It is better to avoid spicy food which may lead to a burning sensation in the stomach and causes uneasiness. It may also upset digestion. In the first two or three months of pregnancy, there may be vomiting and nausea. In such cases, it is not necessary to force her to eat. Craving for sour food is common at such times. It is advisable to take less salt during the late months of pregnancy, if oedema in feet i.e. swelling of feet is observed.

The following are the daily requirements of nutrients for a pregnant woman per day.

ENERGY 2200 – 2300 K.cal.

PROTEIN 65 gms.

FAT 30 gms

CALCIUM 1000 mg.

IRON 38 mg.

VITAMIN A 600 µg

VITAMIN C 40 mg.

FOLIC ACID 400µg.

VITAMIN B₁₂ 1µg.

The requirements for the various nutrients depend on individual’s physical activity level and other physiological conditions. Additional energy is needed to support the growth of the foetus as well as to meet the increased physiological needs of the mother. A woman who does more physical work needs to take more energy yielding foods than a woman who is involved in sedentary or moderate physical activity. That means a proper balance between energy intake and energy output is necessary.

All the cereals like rice, wheat etc., give energy. It is always better to include a mixture of cereal grains in the diet, so that the deficiencies of the nutrients in one would be made good by the other.

Protein is needed for the proper growth of tissues and muscles of the foetus as well as the maternal tissue. Pulses, milk, egg, meat and fish are the good sources of protein. When pulses are consumed together with cereals, the nutritional quality of protein also improves. Sprouted grains

also supply Vitamin C which keeps the gums and teeth healthy. Milk intake should be increased to meet the protein needs and the increased needs of calcium which is necessary for the bone growth of the foetus.

Anaemia is very common during pregnancy because of the increased demands for the iron by both the mother and foetus. Good intake of leafy vegetables supplies iron and Vitamin A also. Iron and Folic acid supplements may be taken with the doctor’s advice.

All the necessary minerals and vitamins are supplied through milk, fruits and vegetables. If a good mixed diet is taken, there is no need for the supplementation of any vitamins.

Another common complaint during pregnancy is constipation. Consuming more fruits, vegetables, whole grains and drinking more liquids will improve the bowel movements.

To meet the daily nutrient requirements pregnant woman should have the foods in following quantities per day approximately.

CEREALS 400 – 450 gms.

PULSES 40 – 45 gms.

LEAFY VEGETABLES 150 gms.

OTHER VEGETABLES 100 gms.

FRUITS 200 gms.

MILK / EGG / MEAT 250 gms.

OIL & FAT 40 gms.

SUGARS 40 gms.

Eating full meal at a time may cause heaviness. Hence she can have small meals often. Along with a good balanced diet, light exercises like walking daily to keep her active and healthy. Some medicines and supplements may cause birth defects. Self medication is dangerous. So it is better to take them on the doctor’s advice. She should have regular check up with regard to weight and blood pressure.

NAME VELAMAKANNI MADHUMATHI

ADDRESS H.NO.1-1-187/3, CHIKKADPALLY

HYDERABAD – 500 020. (A.P.)

PHONE 040-27636039, MOBILE:9949002256

QUALIFICATIONS M.Sc. (Nutrition), C.A.I.I.B.

Dip. In Diamond Grading

Dip. In Jewellery Designing

PROFESSION Asst.Manager, Syndicate Bank

HOBBIES Jewellery Designing, Writing short stories

In Telugu (many are published ).

Received National Prize under National

Prize Competition Scheme for literature

For Neo-literates awarded by Directorate

Of Adult Education – Govt. Of India.

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Message of Flowers

Flowers! Flowers!! They are nice. Wonderful. Soothing. God gave us these wonderful gifts of expression.

Some Flowers will go to God’s feet!

Some will go to bride’s neck!

Some will go to the tombstone!

Some will go to the hands of prostitutes!

The hands that are plucking Flowers are may be different, but all the Flowers are like gentle souls, who want to give their message to the Humanity, that “Life is a small duration. Live it well and without colours, life is very dull”. Flowers! At some places – Many places – at every place if you give them chance to grow they will smile at you. If you do not have special sensibility of the eye, you can not see their gentleness. If you are unable to enjoy this God’s grace, I am sorry to tell you, something is wrong with you.

When your parents are coming to visit your house, put the Flowers at entrance and in their bedroom, choosing the colours liked by them. A hug from you, a smile on your face, a Flower bouquet in your hands enough. They will feel happy. The silent bonding will speak volumes of love.

Remember the date of birth of your beloved. Put Flowers like African Violets or dark pink roses at her/his bed. They will convey your everlasting love for her/him.

Did you quarrel with your lover?

You are cooled down. regretting.

How do you convey your repentance?

Choose a beautiful simple Flower Bouquet; add the sorry tag to it. Give it to your lover. If you don’t want to meet face to face it is ok. Simple, put the bouquet at her door and come back. Surely she will call back. If she doesn’t you can forget her.

Whenever you feel angry or depressed you may go to the Flower shop and observe them you will feel relaxed. They beep message to you “You are not alone. We are with you”.

Flowers give joy and provide double the beauty to women. They add splendour to parties. They sooth disturbed minds. Flowers play an important part in festivities. They enthrall visitors with their fragrance on social occasions. The more you say it with flowers, the greater is the joy of the guests. Flowers in different colours - White, Red, Pink, Yellow, Purple, Violet, Green and many other shades. Yellow flowers are said to represent friendship. Your guests will feel highly pleased when you welcome them with yellow roses which are considered very auspicious. If you decorate the dining table with flowers they make the atmosphere pleasant. If you take care to add more yellow flowers the greater will be the joy.

You can make your dining table look attractive by arranging the flowers in three or four shapes in the middle of the table. The flowers should be made to face different directions so that guests sitting at different places of the table feel that the flowers are especially welcoming them.

If it is a birthday party, you should take extra care in decorating the place with flowers. You can use little dolls the flower will add to the beauty. If you light candles in the flower vessels, the mood will be up-beat.

When your children, particularly your grand children are coming to visit to your house, put not only Flowers here and there, but also include some loving words on paper with your own handwriting you will get a silent big hug from them as soon as they entered in your house. Remember! The important thing is , not costly decoration or costly gifts, but some simple gesture of your love will yield good results.

A cleanly house, some nice Flowers, tasty simple food, with these they feel relaxed, feel they came to their loving home, real home. It is waiting for them like their loving parents.

Sulochana Rani Y.

teenache

Is your daughter entering teenage…?

Soni is a 10 year m old bubbly girl. From first class she is first in studies and extra curricular activities But from some time she is very dull, she is not showing any interest neither in studies, nor in sports. She seems to be preoccupied and also not eating properly. Both her teacher and parents tried to know what happened ,,but she is not responding . . Her parents worried and took her to a psychologist . After talking to soni for 15 minutes, she told them Soni is worried about her physical change in her body. She also told them it is very necessary to prepare the child about puberty, physical and emotional changes ,etc . Soni’s parents surprised to know all these about their little one. Not only Sony’s parents , other parents also need to know many things in this regard.

Teenage is a different situation for many girls. Till then they are like a free birds like freely jumping running etc..Suddenly some changes occur in their body causing emotional imbalance .They are in a confused state, whether to tell their parents or not about their physical changes . Who can clear their doubts ,fears ?Usually mother has to clear such doubts. .But present generation girls are very much close to their papas . .So,it is also the duty of fathers too to understand their little girls feelings and give support If fathers can not talk these things, they can send their girls to some known elderly ladies..Then only parents can stand as their little one’s real pals.. But? what are the changes girls face when entering to puberty or teenage how to face them and over come?…let us see in detail.

What is puberty?

Between 10 to 15 years many physical changes occur in girls. Mentally also some changes dominate their moods .This period of both physical and psychological changes is called Puberty .this is because of gonadotrophin hormones which are produced by pitutory gland .these influence ovaries to produce more estrogen .we can not say what are instigating pitutory gland for this. But the hypothalamus in brain undergoes to primary changes ,.this part only have control over pitutory.

Primary symptoms

in puberty the main change we can see in a girl is the increase in her weight .almost they become double to their previous weight. Another significant change is the increase in their breasts. By 11 years this change is more . The girl can see hair growth on genital parts.pelvis part is widened .body fat increases .But usually menstruation starts after one year of puberty.

Menstruation

Generally girls tend to menstruate at the age of 11.but some times it delays or comes before also .Proper nutrition ,healthy environment are some factors for early menstruation, where as sports, malnutrition etc are the causes of delay .if periods are started and coming at regular intervals, it can be said the girl entered teenage.

Parent*s role

Parents have a significant role in the development of their little girls . .They should be in a position to understand her , capable of guiding her ,and prepare her for the changes .in this process. Some guidelines… by age 9,child should be explained about the physical changes and how natural they are.

The child should not be imposed any restrictions on the ground that she is becoming adult .by doing like this, parents become enemies to children .instead they can explain friendly how to take care of them.

* when periods start,girls should be explained how to use sanitary pads, keep hygiene ,how important it is to be clean etc.

if possible child should be taken to a gynaecologist and be explained about the changes by them.
as puberty is a crusial stage, proper nutrition should be given ,and good exercise is necessary.
As the child gets many doubts in this age, parents are to be patiently hear and clear them .
The child should be given enough freedom, but should not exceed the limits.

These are some inpotant changes which take place in a girl’s life. we can see many more teenage problems and suitable remedies for them in coming articles.

Period pains

Simi is a girl of 12 years .From one year she is observing some changes in her body and mind. She tried to ask her father. But did not get an answer. Then simi tried to ask her mother. she told not to ask such doubts. She could not do anything except feeling lonely. Suddenly one day she saw blood stains to her cloths. She screamed in horror. Her parents came and after knowing what happened, they kept their faces so sad and started talking about expenditure on her education, marriage expenses etc.. They imposed some restrictions for her going out…etc. Simi did not understand what has happened .but she sensed that a very big mistake took place with her of which she and her parents are going to suffer. She went to her dear science teacher and told her problems. Her teacher immediately called her parents and told them how to behave with growing children ,educate them, support them. instead of supporting their girl’s natural changes, they are inhibiting fears of which the poor little girl is in a confused state of mind. The teacher also told them if parents have proper guidance, many teenage problems could be avoided.

Of course, not every one is not facing the same problem as simi. but most of the middle class girls experience such things. now the world is changing. Children are not any more children. there is lot of awareness around them .so we try to restrict them from watching tv, cinemas etc.., and feel we are protecting. But we do not tell any thing to our little girls ,.we feel some matters are not to be discussed with children. when our girls are growing, seems to be scared and dull about their physical changes, we too feel sorry instead of explaining how natural it is .Usually girls tend to menstruate between the ages 9 to 17 years .Before this only we should prepare them for those changes mentally .let us see in detail…

Who should tell…

Girls come to know things like menstruation ,their periodicity ,how to face them and all through their mother. .but sad thing is some mothers won’t give proper information .They don not feel like talking such things with their growing children.. As a result, many girls feel talking about such matters is a taboo. .They start hating periods. .Eventually in many girls at the time of periods we see tiredness ,anger ,frustration etc.

What happens?

It is quite common before two days to periods, some sort of depressed feeling would arise .head ache, bloated stomach ,uneasiness near pelvis… All these occur .once periods start, all these will be vanished .but in teenage girls these changes are more, .they tend to bleed for 4 to 6 days. for some they are heavy and for some they are minimum.. The gap between periods also vary. for some starters , If the flow is continuous for days. then think some problem is there.

Problems

In teenage, periods are not regular . .For some , bleeding is heavy and for some girls very less. If for some time this persists, it is better to consult gynecologist.

_ Some girls put up weight before periods. they may increase up some pounds .due to hormonal changes percentage of salt in body increase. so water content becomes more and body will become pluffy.

_ Eating chocolates ,sweets is also one reason for weight increase .hormonal changes may cause for these cravings.

_Many girls face stomach ache problem in periods .The pain below abdomen is so severe that many do not go to colleges . .in some girls this pain may cause severe depression and lead to suicide also.

What to do?

Soon after physical changes started and before menstruation starts, parents should prepare their children for the coming days. from mood changes to periods everything should be dealt in detail with care and affection.

_ In periods time girls are to be encouraged to do light exercises . so that stress on them decreases, . blood flow increases. exercise helps to release endorphins of which pain is reduced.

_ water intake should be more in periods time. so that digestive system is proper and leads to activeness. Also good food is to be given.

_ if stomach ache is severe, blood flow is more it is better to consult a doctor.

Hygiene is a must

It is very important to maintain hygiene in periods .Mothers must guide girls properly regarding this, .the use of sanitary napkins, tampons etc are to be explained like…

_ if napkins are changed for every four or five hours, we can avoid bad odour, stains .

_ by mistake stains occur on cloths, they can be cleaned with water and detergent.

_ used napkins are to be folded in waste paper and thrown to dustbin properly.

_college going girls ,it is better to keep extra set of napkins in their bag.

_proper body hygiene should be maintained .atleast twice bath should be taken.

Most of all girls should get their parents support .if parents extend their overall guidance, periods are never be painful., the girls will know it is a natural ,wonderful body groth.

_k.shobha

Let us discuss a few points before cooking.

Every person leads a particular style in food habits just as he leads a particular life style. Many people among us eat whatever we find. We never think whether the particular item we eat is good for health or not. But, a few people among us (i.e.) very small percentage think and take food which is good for health. Of course, some vegetables are good for everyone’s health.

Our country is a mixture of various languages, religious, castes, dress culture, good habits etc., So, each person has a different style in good habits. Our kitchen itself big medical shop for us. Our forefathers researched completely about health and created this clinic (kitchen) which we may not realize and never .. to learn. God created nature for our well being. He created fruits, vegetables, spices and many more wonderful things out of it. He created and kept this super market (nature) around us to that we can realize the necessity of the things available and make our life happy. He also created a mechanical system inside our body to digest whatever we eat.

Many of us don’t know that our spices box in the kitchen itself works like a first aid box. Life become mechanical now a days. No body finds time to learn and do things. Everybody is running with time like vehicles and machines.

Our lives changed a lot since 50 years. The proverb ‘Slow and steady wins the race’ is not being observed now a days. Everyone is running to earn money but no one is caring for their health. Time is moving very fast. We have to count even minutes & seconds to do things. In this fast world man has to perform his duties on one side and give importance to the old customs on the otherside. So, man has to spend time like a miser in the fast world. This is why man is not spending enough time for food. But, in a person’s life food also plays a vital role when a persons stomach is empty or half filled how can he work in a proper way? According to our old traditions eating with our family is courteous. Cooking food for our family and waiting for the beloved ones gives more happiness than eating alone. Some people think cooking is a big work and become scared. Cooking is a work not big but if it is done properly by consuming right amount of time it gives you enjoyment and saves money.

This book is written by keeping all classes of people in mind (I.e.) married couples, unmarried, students and the one who is new to cooking. It gives you some suggestions and teaches you how to cook in an easy way. It gives you an idea about traditional cooking also. I hope this vegetarian cooking book gives you a description of all kinds of recipes which you need for your daily cooking. These food items which we discuss later takes less time and gives more taste.

Now a days everyone is consuming time for earning money but not spending enough time to have proper food. Due to this lack of time they are eating food available in parlours, hotels etc., but they are not observing how far that suits their body. They are not observing whether their body can digest this type of food or not. Many health hazards are due to this factor only. So, one should always take proper care of ones health and then other materialistic things because ‘health is wealth’.

One feels happy to prepare recipes for oneself. If the recipe is prepared for your beloved person or family or friends by you, you feel more happiness. This pure happiness cannot be achieved out of money. If you prepare at home you can serve both money and health. The other major problem for a house is servant maid. In cities servants are a big problem regarding money and work. They do out of it is small. Sometimes they wont come and if we ask about if they shout and stop coming completely. Not only that they don’t allow any other person to come and work. They take leave on Sundays, festival days and what not but you should not spell even a single work on them if they do any mistake. A housewife deals with many problems in the house. Even if she doesn’t go out for work she is the one who takes the responsibility of the entire house. She has to cook food, keep the house clean, and wash vessels and other things. If the mind is absent and what not she is the care taker of the entire house. In this way woman who is a house wife also have lot of work to do. So, man should change with the change in the time and society. All the members in the family should help woman (house wife) in each and every aspect. They should help at least in mind works like picking up the coffee cups, putting the plates in the wash tub, dusting the house and sofas etc. whether the wife is at home or working man should know that she also needs rest. If the wife works like a machine and one find day if the machine breaks down who is going to take charge of the entire house?

Never feel that what is the value of a housewife? In which aspect is she good for? She is the heart of a family. If she fails the entire house may turn into an asylum. Remember this fact.

Wife is the one who shares her love and affection for her family. She is the one who is responsible for you to go out and work peacefully. If you see and compare the percentage of work you do and the work she does at home, the work you do is less compared to her work. So, you should always give the first value to your wife, help her in every work and lower her strain. If you cant do any work talk to her sweetly so that she feels relaxed.

Measures to be taken for a good kitchen.

· There should be proper ventilation and air flow in a kitchen otherwise the bad smell that remains in a kitchen due it lack of ventilation may cause breathing problems which may result in the rise of doctor bill.

· Important things like coffee filter, bowler, tea cups, peeler, spoons etc should be kept near your hands.

· Turmeric, chilli powder, oil, red chillis, spices should be kept in glass bottles and spices box so that you can see them easily and take out without washing much time.

· Hand towel or sponge to clean platform should be kept clean and at the hand side. Sponge is very important because if milk boils out on the shore it is very easy to clean with sponge.

· Remove all the waste items like waste bottles, tins without caps, waste cups etc from the kitchen because if everything is packed tightly kitchen will become a home for cockroaches and insects.

· Keep plates on all food items.

· To avoid insects put the dried neem leaves at the corner of the kitchen cupboard.

· Never keep the broomstick in the kitchen because the dust in the broomstick may cause marks on the walls.

· Clean the kitchen atleast once a week with the detergent liquid available in the market.

· Your mind should be fresh while cooking.For this reason put a tape recorder or radio at one corner of the kitchen and listen to it while cooking.

· There should be a fan or an exhaust fan in the kitchen.

· Refrigerator should be cleaned for every 15 days. Arrange all the fruits and vegetables in an order. Beans should not be wasted. They should be wrapped in a paper.

· Doormat should be placed at the entrance of the kitchen and near the sink.

Shopping Tips.

It is good to get all groceries like rice, dal, salt, sugar etc once every month. Bring fruits and vegetables once every week and store them in the refrigerator. Vegetables like potatoes can remain unspoiled for 15 days. So they can be bought once every fortnight.

· Prepare a list of the vegetables you use within a week so that it will be easy for you to purchase. Some leafy vegetables and beans spoil soon. So, first cook them and then go to other vegetables.

· Whenever you go shopping eat properly. Don’t shop with an empty stomach because if you feel hungry you feel like going home soon and you may choose wrong items in a hurry.

· If you want to buy oil see which brand suitable and free from allergy for your family. Select the right brand which suits your health.

· Put a strong nilon bag for shopping so that if the bag becomes heavy it wont break in between and there wont be any risk of the vegetables falling down.

· See the nutritional value of rice, dal and oil which you buy.

· For oil and ghee see the tables to know their nutritional value or else ask someone who know about these very well.

· If you are cheated in the rates of the products for the first time don’t feel bad. This will be a lesson for the second time.

· Don’t pay attention to the words of the seller. See the rate ,value and observe the product carefully and then buy the product. Always shop leisurely. Never hurry in shopping.

Now a days food stuff is costly. So maintain a book for your budget. Write the expenses and see how much you are spending for food. If you are spending more then your income sees the list and buy vegetables which are availed at low cost. Don’t waste money by buying more vegetables. Now a days storing vegetables is a big problems. So get vegetables which you require for a week from the market. If vegetables last for longtime they may rotten. So, it is better to bring vegetables which lasts long and easy to store.

If you eat less you become unhealthy. If you eat more your body may not digest it properly. So, neither eat more nor less. Eat accordingly. Curries prepared with masala are very tasty. But they are not good for your health. If you eat in a proper way (i.e.) moderately (not more, not less) you can become doctors for yourself. If you spend 50% in knowing about your health an body.

Suggestions.

If you forget to by some papads when some guests visit your house don’t feel bad and get worried .Get some chips packets from the market. Chips taste very good in Sambar and rasam.

When you get up easily in the morning plan the day accordingly (i.e.) what has to be taken in lunch, dinner, breakfast and cook accordingly so that three wont be any confusion if your maid takes a leave or else if you want to go out for the day. Put some biscuits, cakes and chips always in home so that you can serve them immediately if any guests visit your home.

Similarly, if you plan about your clothes and wash them regularly according to a particular time your work will become simple and easy. These days time is running fast. Neither a maid is available to do all the things nor there are any elder persons at time to take care of everything. So, you should only do things of your own. Hence, if is better to plan everything and do accordingly.

Remove the leaves of the curry leaves and put them in a box and store them in a box and store them in a box and store them in the refrigerator so that they last fresh for about 15 days. Don’t eat garlic or onion before visiting any guest s because your mouth may smell bad . If you eat them put some mouth freshener while going out to meet someone. If a thing is taken from a place ask your family members he put it in the same place otherwise you may not find if it required.

Some people think that cooking is not a tuff job. But you find so much work before an after cooking (i.e.) the cleaning process. So, put some cloth or sponge when you cook food so that you can clean the platform and stove immediately if anything falls down. Place one calendar in the kitchen and mark the important days which you have to remembers with a pen. Don’t worry if the curds turn sour when any guests visit your home. Add one glass of milk to kill the sourness. If any curry turns salty add some fried chena atta to kill the saltiness.

Maintain one diary for yourself. Note all the works that you have to do within a week. If the work is done mark it with a red pen. If not postpone it to the next day and complete it. Maintain a book for financial matters. Note the dates if you have purchased any gold items, silver, plots etc. so that it anyone asks you about them you can reply immediately without any confusion.

Staple all the telephone, current and water bills and put them in a file Maintain a separate file for this because if any person relating to the same asks you any information you can show him immediately without any confusion. In this way you can also check how much amount you are spending for these from you income.

Cover the table with a table cloth and place one paper cover on it so that it will be easy for you to clean. Don’t put hot dishes directly on the table. Place bowl stands when you put any hot dishes. Place some glasses, spoons, plates and bowls especially for guests so that when you serve they look nice without any cracks or marks.

If any guests come to lunch or dinner put a separate cloth napkin or sponge so that it anything drops out you can clean within seconds. At first nobody knows how to cook. Nobody knows the process measurement of Rice, Dal, curry etc. you may learn the measurements for only two members. But it some guest come to your house you may not know the measurements.

Some people eat less while some people eat more. In some families 2 glasses of Rice may be sufficient for 4 members, but in some families not even 2 people can eat properly. So, whenever you cook it is better to cook more because if the food is not sufficient and if it cannot be reserved you may worry and feel embarrassed. But, if you cook more and is remained you can give if to your maid or any poor person. So, cook more whenever you cook.

How to eat food.

Whenever you sit for food sit peacefully without any tensions and worries. Many people take very less time to have food. They don’t even chew the food completely. They just swallow it which is very dangerous for health. God gave us teeth to chew the food completely so that it will digest properly.

So, mind that there are not teeth in one stomach to chew food. So take some time, chew food properly at eat food. Chew the food slowly and then swallow see what you are eating. Even if you go for your neighbors house for lunch don’t forget to thank them.

If it is your wife you should give some complement or comment regarding food. Many people don’t care for the wife when cooks food and waits for the person. But this is wrong. You should take food with your family members at least once everyday. If you don’t like the food in your neibhours house eat slowly and say enough but don’t comment the way they cook. Always take food peacefully talking about good things and listening to others if they say something. Don’t make sounds when you chew food or drink butter milk because the place will become disturbed if you do so and more over it is not a good habit. Eat limitedly. Even if the dish is tasty eat according to your stomach. Don’t forget that there is a limit to your stomach.

LEAVING WORK AFTER KIDS?

At first glance, most would ignore a job offer to be on call 24/7 with a lifetime contract and zero earnings and benefits. Yet parents, particularly mothers, accept the occupation every day, generally aware of the conditions but not always prepared for them.

Motherhood is an essential job in society, but still too often an invisible one. All mothers work, whether they care for their children full time, have flexible work schedules or a home office, or spend the modern-day minimum of 40 hours per week in the marketplace. Today’s mother is vastly different from those of preceding generations, ranging from their work experience and education to personal and professional goals.

Martha Bullen, co—author of Staying Home: From Full-Time Professional to Full-Time Parent says, “the mindset [of today’s mothers] is different, because many are choosing to stay home to raise and nurture their child.” This contrasts days when at -home motherhood was either assumed or one of few options. Furthermore, significant coping skills are required for those who have been used to any full-time work schedule and leave the workplace when they start a family. For these women, we will examine what this option really means.

What am I getting myself into?

Many women who do not return to the workplace after their maternity leave from either necessity or choice are not ready for “Mother” being added to their list of multiple job titles. It is difficult to go from conducting workshops or meeting deadlines to changing diapers and initial sleep-deprived days.

“The decision is not forever — it can be altered,” says Bullen. “I recommend that you give staying home a try, and just see how it works.” Some tend to treat their choice as an absolute, feeling guilty if the outcome is different than expected. The truth is that caring for children proves to be a reality check of the unpredictable, but adequate preparation can make for a smooth transition. There are many unknowns involved, and most mothers stress that if you are unhappy you are not doing yourself or your children a favor.

The lifestyle change is intense, but it can be managed! Here are some tips:

Lighten up!

Perhaps in your pre-baby days you could leap from office to kitchen in a single bound while talking on the phone in one hand and writing poetry in the other. Retire that superwoman cape ! You can still multi task, but what will keep you sane is how you view it. Peggy H, a Georgia mother says, “If! had to do it again...I would have gotten more rest instead of trying to burn the candle at both ends and not feel so guilty because m) house was messy (when my girls were small).” Your days and handheld device may not coincide, but do not panic. While it may be typical for you to be in control with your world revolving in perfect order, expect the unexpected.

“You may not be able to schedule a day because you don’t know what type of child you are going to have. Sometimes you must give in to the chaos,” says Joanne Brundage, founder and executive director of the mother’s support organization Mothers & More.

Unlike workplace employees, mothers are not easily replaceable. Do yourself and your family the favor of not trying to do too many things at once, and be content with babystep accomplishment (pardon the pun), rather than seeking after astonishing feats of strength.

Utilize, or gain a support system

A survey of mothers in the US revealed that the majority said losing their sense of professional status (identity, accomplishment) was harder than losing their income. Surprising, but realistic in a culture that defines you by what you do. Isolation was mentioned as the hardest part of staying home. Your relationships change, as does the prior ability to come and go as you pleased. Gaining or maintaining a hobby can help stabilize the transition, but a support system of some sort is vital to emotional stability. Though your decision to stay home may not be permanent, motherhood is. If you determine that at-home parenting suits you, align yourself with others who will support your decision.

Fiscal fitness

A dreaded topic in many households, finance talk can be easier than you might think. As work/life/family options evolve, mothers will continue to make this choice, and must deal with the money issue. Try economic forecasting, discussing the possibility extensively with your spouse. Many who have done this said paying off as many bills as possible would help alleviate possible stressors, especially when the finances rely on one partner’s ll1come.

Others say that planning before the children come is vital, using measures from banking one salary to limiting financial commitments that require dual-incomes.

“When [husband] and I got married we knew that I was going to stay home with the kids,” says mother of two Sangeeta S. “Even when I had income, we only used it as extra. We did not include my income to pay any bills. So, when my salary was not there, we did not miss it.” In some cases, determine whether the income will even be “lost,” by looking at work-related expenses and/or childcare costs that may expend the salary you are eliminating.

Maybe there ARE benefits!

Some women have discovered what an amazing gift this transition can be. Whether home for three to six months or indefinitely, many mothers find their work life goes in a different direction.

“Most women [returning to the workplace after leaving to care for children] don’t go back the way they left,” says Brunda. “They may go into different fields, but the time away allows re-centering such that their identity is not connected to a job title. They know more than they did before what they want, what they need, and what they have to offer. The experience is similar to mid-life crisis, but puts [them] in a better position for the rest of [their] life. When they go back; their work revolves around their life.”

RETURNING TO WORK AFTER KIDS

There’s a TREND of women in the workforce known as “comeback moms.” Having put their careers on hold to stay home with the kids, they now want to get back in the workplace

What moms want

The number-one thing comeback moms want is flexibility. They are saying, “I don’t want to go back to what I had. I want an emotionally satisfying job, but not at the frantic pace I had before.” What a lot of them are hearing is that they’re overqualified for a job. One of the arguments you can make is to say, “Give me a shot at it. Give me a project to show you I can do it. I would not apply for a job like yours. This is what I am looking for at this time in my life.” What employer wouldn’t want more bang for their buck?

Fear factor.

Lack of confidence is the biggest obstacle for most women thinking about returning to the workforce. That’s why the first priority is to program your psyche to overcome the no-confidence stumble. That alone will increase your chances of getting what you want.. Women commonly fear that they’re “too old” or will get a negative reaction to “I don’t want to work a rigid workweek,” or that they’ll be seen as out of touch with the new workplace.

Career or job?

If you can’t do the long hours and frequent travel, it behooves you to take a position at a lower level with a lower salary than what you had previously. You may need to take a step back before you can move forward again.

Don’t wait

You should be networking the entire time you’re out of the workplace. Don’t wait until junior steps on the bus for kindergarten to start looking for a job. Trying to get back in the workforce after years of no contacts is a big mistake.

Don’t apologize for time off

Using words like “All I ever did was tend my garden and change diapers” is a mistake. Take part-time jobs, no matter how low-paying they are, so you’ll have something to put on your resume. You can also volunteer. Do something with measurable work, something quantifiable. Get out of the school bake sales and get into community government. The contacts will get you places.

Strategic plan for comeback moms:

1. Take part-time jobs

You need something to put on your resume so there’s not a huge gap. Don’t be afraid if it’s not lucrative. The experience and the contacts will help you in the long run.

2. Volunteer like a man

Think like a man. Make it measurable work. Sit on a school board or do community projects to develop contacts.

3. Education is the magic bullet

It’s a great idea to expand on your education, even if you can only go part-time. By the time your last child is in school your degree could be accomplished. It shows an employer that you’re serious and that you are willing to invest in yourself and learn new skills. It’s a great resume filler.

4. Start your own business

Small at-home businesses can grow into big strip-mall businesses.

Do you have these Emergency Phone Numbers

Medical service
Police & Fire Services
Nearest Police Station
Crime Stopper Service
Traffic Help Line
Gas Leak Complaint Service
Electricity Complaint Service
Sewerage Complaint Service
Ambulance Service
Blood Bank Service

Always keep these phone numbers at your phone table or in your cell phone.